PATTERN #1

Well, its something philosophical but true.

We humans, we evolve. The things we practice now in general are far different from what our great great fore fathers' generation practised. This is called evolution.

Now, the things we believe or practice, today, can be categorised. They follow a pattern. And sorry to say, people follow it like donkeys, no brains are involved here. They fight, rebel, shout without using much brain as to what they are shouting about.

I will give an example here, to make you understand.

Feminism. Its quite in now a days. Standing for your right. And women are fighting, shouting, rebeling for it. I have heard may women saying, "I am not the kind of woman to stay at home and make rotis. No one can supress me like this. I am not born to do that. I will also go out and work like a man."

So, have anyone thought over it how this concept originated and why?

We have seen, heard , in history books, that the man of the house go out and work to earn the money to run the household and the woman manages the house, cooks, take care of the children. Why did it happen? Has anyone thought about it?

It was because, in early days, when  people started to live in groups, division of work started . man are stronger tha woman physically. So the main aim of people was to eat inorder to survive.Man being stronger physically than women, were assigned to hunt animals for food, cut trees to get wood for fire, or other chores that involved physical strength. Women, on the other hand, are delicate but strong emotionally. They have patience. They are caring, loving.

So, they stayed at home and cooked with care, took care of the old ones and the infants.  And so according to the capabilities, the work were assigned. And they had a peaceful household.

But throughout the years, the concept continued but the outlook changed.

Woman stays at home and cooks and take care of the household was considered inferior and men, going out to earn money to run the household was considered superior.  

And so, women were held as captive inside home and men could go around freely. women became dependent on men. If the men wont earn the women cant cook and hence the household cant run.

Women started rebeling. They fought to come out of house and be free and independent  like men.

Women started working and earning just like men, equal. But women had to take care of the household too, and a man only helps her. Because the basic capabilities, expertise will always remain the same. men will always be better in physical work and woman will always be better in taking care of the kid or an ailing old man at home. And even of  a man is equally capable of doing all the women's stuff, the male ego will always stop him. Staying at home and doing a woman's work is so degrading for a man in the eyes of the society.  This is such a huge concept that even the women of the house refuse their man to do so.

And society is a group of people that always is curious about you and hates you when you are happy and loves you when you are unhappy, because then you are one of them. If you are different, you cannot fit into a society. You can never please a society. They will always find some faults in you and force you to be unhappy. And being a social animal, we humans, cant live without  society and become one of them.  It needs lots and lots of self confidence and bravery to stand against the society and live on your own terms.

And regarding feminism, and woman rights and all stuff, if there is a mutual understanding between the man and the woman of the house, I dont feel they have to come out to the streets and fight for their rights. man and woman are both equal , nobody is superior. we just have different anatomy and hence capabilities. And, when a man and a woman comes together and decides to start a family, right there, they should clear out their responsibilities and involve nobody else.   21 and 18 is not only eligibility for sex, but to be adults, to be matured, to take responsibilities of your new life together. And if you dont have an idea, then wait till you have.

I am amazed when woman complains that they had to sacrifice their job because of the kid. Its so common. "Its a curse for us woman. Always we had to sacrifice our job for the baby. The man of the house never have to. " I wonder, how they can call looking after their newborn baby a curse. Did anyone force them to have the baby. If she wanted to work, then she shouldnt have given birth to the baby.  The couple should have discussed earlier before giving birth to the baby, who would look after the kid after birth, if the woman is ready to leave her job or still wants to work.

 So, basically, its a PATTERN. people follow it. It has been happening and people are followign the herd like donkeys without using their brain. I sometimes feel, people are afraid to think outside the comfort zone. They feel safe following the herd .  Its like repeating an act, they exactly know what will happen and when they have to complain or when they will sacrifice. They know what will be the outcome. They just repeat the whole thing again. Yes, they are comfortable repeating what they know, even if its self destructing, than using their brain and doing something out of the box. And yeah, the society is always there to console you, give you a shoulder to cry, when you are unhappy, remember that.

"pidhiyon se yahin chalti aa rahi hai beti, hamesha hamein hi sacrifice karni padti hai, yahi iss duniya ki dastoor hai" meaning, 'welcome to the society' evil grin.